He wanted to ride his bike across new lands. He yearned to explore boundaries of strength, continents and relationship.
She dreamed of ballerinas, standing under the Eiffel Tower, and macarons melting in her mouth each day. She yearned for culture, passion and stimulation of her senses.
They are children raised with opportunity and also adversity. Holding the opposites of their full healthy life while that was taken from their older brother.
They live in a (somewhat) post pandemic world, spreading their wings and independence, when they have always been in a state of twinhood.
We strive to create moments and memories. We know the things of life are just passing. We value experience and connection.
We live in light and darkness. Hope and grief.
Rather than pushing the sadness aside, I’ve learned to embrace it.
This summer I had the opportunity to read the book, Bittersweet, by Susan Cain. This book speaks of the power of melancholy and longing—and it reminds me of the power of holding opposites.
ONE OF THE MOST ANTICIPATED BOOKS OF 2022—Oprah Daily, BookPage
Bittersweetness is a tendency to states of longing, poignancy, and sorrow; an acute awareness of passing time; and a curiously piercing joy at the beauty of the world. It recognizes that light and dark, birth and death—bitter and sweet—are forever paired.
If you’ve ever wondered why you like sad music . . .
If you find comfort or inspiration in a rainy day . . .
If you react intensely to music, art, nature, and beauty . . .
Then you probably identify with the bittersweet state of mind.
Our twins (he and she) started high school this month.
Their older brother, Koby, died 4 ½ years ago, at the age of 13.
I’m keenly aware how quickly four years can go.
I want to hold onto every moment, while letting them grow—and go.
Bittersweet, for sure.
How are you holding opposites this week?